There are actually many stages during the wedding and it could takes more than a month, depending on which indigenous group they come from. Brunei Malay is actually made up of 7 indigenous groups, namely Melayu Brunei, Tutong, Belait, Kedayan, Bisaya, Dusun and Murut. The followings are just snap shot on some of the occasions for Melayu Brunei…
First event: Berjarum-jarum. This is when the groom’s family visited the bride’s family for the first time to get to know each other. Now a day this event is commonly hold in restaurants rather than in private residence. And surely, the bride’s family will not their daughter go out without knowing who she’s going out with… hence one way or the other both families will know each other.
Second event: Bersuruh. Official meeting between groom’s and the bride’s families to discuss on wedding occasion. Usually this is when the bride’s family gives their terms & conditions. (pic above: 2 rings: membuka mulut and tunang/engagement, obviously asian style... eaaattt first! and last pic shows the lead group rehearsal what to mention during the event later).
Third event: Pertunangan (engagement). The groom’s family visited the bride’s family again to surrender an engagement ring hence to book the bride. This event usually combined with Bersuruh
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